Melissa Oley

Not Crying at a Funeral

The drug I’ve been missing lately isn’t the pills. It’s NPR. Not the news itself, but the ritual of it — the soundtrack of civility, the soft cadence of morning hosts reading the day into order. Those gentle voices were a form of anesthesia. They framed chaos as

The Continental Divide

So perhaps god broke, and the fracture multiplied. That fracture became galaxies, planets, bodies. Every act of creation was an echo of the first mistake—divine fragmentation playing out as biology. Our drive to merge, to understand, to make meaning, might simply be the universe trying to remember what it

The Theater of Humiliation

Cruelty, in its purest form, isn’t physical. It’s theatrical. It requires an audience. Humiliation is its preferred stage. When someone tries to dismantle you privately, it’s domination. But when they do it publicly—especially before your children—it becomes indoctrination. It’s no longer about you; it’

The Gospel of the Bastard God

Has any human truly stopped to consider that our story might be that of a bastard? We chant that we are “made in the image of God,” as though that phrase guarantees belonging. But what if it isn’t a blessing at all? What if “in his image” is not

THE VIRUS OF FORGETTING

Today’s lesson is simple enough to write in one line: Not all control requires obedience. Some just requires amnesia. We’ve been trained—quite effectively—to watch for the wrong apocalypse. Your imagination has been colonized with black-and-white footage of plague wards, mushroom clouds, tanks rolling through capitals, hazmat

The Anatomy of Collapse: How Loss Becomes Leverage

The Oldest Algorithm It’s easier to control someone who’s lost everything. I know that because I’ve lived it. When I was broke, couch-surfing, and dependent on both pills and a belief system that promised salvation, I learned the oldest formula of power: create dependency, then sell deliverance.

The Doctrine of Light

Every civilization invents a theology around what it cannot control. Ours worships medicine, progress, and artificial illumination. We believe wellness lives in white coats and fluorescent rooms. Yet the first doctor was the dawn. For most of my recorded life, I was a parishioner of the modern clinic—sick, sedated,

Fear Is the Fastest Missionary

Why Belief Surges When Certainty Collapses — and How to Stay Sovereign When the Spell Breaks When the world destabilizes, people don’t reach for freedom — they reach for certainty. From medieval plagues to modern pandemics to Hollywood baptisms, fear converts faster than faith. Every age repeats the same choreography: the

When God Became a Monopoly

Every civilization has its root religion—the invisible operating system that teaches people what’s real, who’s in charge, and what happens if you disobey. But if you zoom out far enough, a pattern appears: every upgrade of religion looks less like evolution and more like a merger. Each

Religion × Pharmaceuticals: The Faith of the Broken

For two thousand years, humanity has lived under two great authorities: the priest and the doctor. Both promise salvation. Both demand faith. And both depend on the same fundamental belief — that something inside you is wrong, and only something outside you can make it right. Religion called it sin. Medicine

Cycle Breakers or Escape Artists?

Modern relationships—and the concept of marriage as one partner for life—were introduced to humanity alongside the rise of monotheism. When the idea of one true god emerged, so did the idea of one sanctioned union. Love became contractual. Partnership became property. And somewhere between devotion and dogma, we

The Normal That Isn’t Natural

We were told this was progress. The injectables, the retinoids, the filters. The quiet war against our own biology disguised as self-care. We were told this was empowerment. But what if it’s programming? What if “normal” isn’t natural—and never was? The Gospel of Dysfunction Our species—circadian

The SUN is the SON

I spent eighty-eight-point-six percent of my life sick, high, drunk, dissociated, angry, and afraid. That isn’t an exaggeration; it’s arithmetic. I could chart the years on a medical timeline—each season bracketed by a new prescription, a new diagnosis, a new theory about what was wrong with me.

The Performance of Peace

An Open Letter from Deprogrammed To: Whoever still thinks civility equals sainthood. cc: The Committee for Optics and Other Illusions. Subject: Control, Optics, and the Quiet Rebellion of Calm Every empire of domination must invent a religion of respectability. After a breakup or divorce, that religion rebrands itself as peace.

Predictive History and the Priesthood of Data

The Machine Doesn’t Malfunction — It Self-Corrects We’ve been trained to assume benevolence in bureaucracy. That the people in charge are clumsy, not cruel. That empire is just trying its best. “Never attribute to malice what can be explained by incompetence,” they say— as if incompetence at this altitude

MAGA, The Jesuit Time Loop & The Temple of the False Light

Okay, okay—maybe you don't know any of what I’m about to say. That’s fine. But the real question isn’t how you missed it; it’s why you were never meant to see it. So take a breath. I’ll hold your hand like your

The Art of Not Being Food: How to Starve the Pattern Without Starving Yourself

My bf gave me feedback on my essay, The Pattern Fatigue: When the Spell Stops Working. He said, “I love it, but how do you actually stop worshiping the pattern when the pattern is the air you breathe?” And that question landed like a tuning fork in my bones. Because

We’re Getting Something Wrong About Blended Families and Co-Parenting

The Myth of the Modern Village We keep using the word blended as if we’re making smoothies — throw a few lives into a high-speed container, add “love,” and expect harmony. But families aren’t recipes. They’re ecosystems — fragile, interdependent, weather-bound. When you fuse two ecosystems without respecting their

The Pattern Fatigue: When the Spell Stops Working

The Punchline Hidden in Plain Sight Once you see the pattern, it’s not mystical anymore — it’s boring. And that’s the revelation no priest, pundit, or prophet wants you to have. The same black cubes. The same chosen-one scripts. The same “hidden” rituals dressed up as fresh revelation.

The Mirror Contract: Escaping the Saturnian Script

“The gods give us mirrors, not lovers—so we may meet the parts of ourselves we dare not face.” Compassion as Foundation Compassion isn’t only for the past—it’s the foundation of what comes next. Because if you can’t regulate your own nervous system, don’t kid

Keep Your Labubu to Yourself: Saturn Still Feeds, Don’t Feed My Kids

Humans have always worshiped. Long before temples and holy books, our ancestors looked to the sky, the stars, the seasons — and they bowed. Why? Because worship was survival. To the ancient mind, rain meant crops, the sun meant life, and Saturn — the slow, dim, devouring planet — meant death and time.

The Scripted Funeral

Grief, Gaslighting, and the Anatomy of Cult Control When I was twelve, my mother gave birth to her fourth child — my half-brother — on April 18. Twelve hours later, he was gone. The autopsy said it plainly: an underdeveloped brainstem, the instrument for human life itself. By the time I hit

When Silence Becomes Policy: The Vaccine Study You Weren’t Allowed to See

“The corruption of science isn’t just in the data we’re shown. It’s in the data we’re never allowed to see.” The Hearing That Should Have Changed Everything On September 9, 2025, in a Senate chamber that looked more like theater than truth-telling, a hearing was held

Charlie Kirk’s Assassination: The Script Behind the Tragedy

The assassination of Charlie Kirk is grim on its own terms, but in the theater of politics, nothing stands alone. Every image, every headline, every tragic replay carries more than the surface story. If you listen carefully, you can hear the orchestration. On the surface, this is a shocking loss:

Therapy Is Failing Us: Why Modern Psychology Keeps You Stuck in Victimhood

The neuroscience of why healing isn’t about talking forever—it’s about doing differently, now. The Therapy Trap Nobody Talks About “Have you processed that with your therapist?” “Take time to heal first.” “Be gentle with yourself. Feel all your feelings.” It all sounds wise, compassionate, and progressive. But

"Healing Apart” Is Not Healing Together: The Neuroscience of Waiting for Love That Isn’t Fully Available

The Romantic Lie We’ve Been Sold "I want you, but I need to heal first." "Let’s build slowly, from a distance. Just give me six months to feel safe again." If you’ve heard words like these, you know how seductive they can be.

MELANIN: THE LIVING TECHNOLOGY DERMATOLOGY IGNORES

The misunderstood genius pigment that does far more than block UV THE STORY YOU’VE BEEN SOLD Melanin has been criminally underestimated. Dermatology reduces it to a single function: a shield against UV damage. A biological sunscreen. That’s it. But that story doesn’t hold up. If melanin’s

The Snack Won’t Save Me

Why We’re Protecting the Wrong Bodies—and Paying for It with Our Brains "You should try eating something." It’s always delivered as if it’s kindness—a soft little dagger wrapped in concern. But what it really says is: "Your body makes me uncomfortable, and

I CANT BELIEVE ITS BUTTER: How the Low-Fat Lie Starved Our Brains and Broke Our Bodies

"I can’t believe you eat butter." The words land like a judgment dressed as concern, the kind people toss casually at dinner parties or in comment sections. It’s a cultural reflex, born of decades of fear-based health messaging. Butter, we were told, was dangerous—artery-clogging, heart-stopping,

The Sermon of Skin: Why They Called Me a Slut for Praying Right

They called me a slut for showing skin. Cute. Skin is not shame. Skin is the altar where the real Son/Sun preaches—and the sermon has always been written in light. Growing up, I was told my body was dangerous. Flesh was temptation. Exposure was rebellion. My worth was

Tossed, Not Sunk

What Shakespeare, Ovaltine, and a Fading Tattoo Taught Me About Self-Rescue I didn’t expect to find god—or anything close to him—while watching British television. But there I was, thirteen, cross-legged in the basment, absorbing Jane Austen by way of Kate Winslet. British heartbreak has a way of

In Defense of Narcissus: Hot, Haunted, and Misunderstood

When people say “divorce,” what they often mean is escape. But the assumptions wrapped in that word—stitched together with hope, fear, and legalese—are pure delusion: That the disagreeable parts will vanish with distance. That pain can be annulled by paper. That contradiction somehow equals closure. That taking responsibility

The Terms of Exile: How One Woman Survived Control, Outgrew Compliance, and Lit a Match on Her Way Out

For 23 years, I was raised in a religious cult that controlled every aspect of my identity—my thoughts, my body, my relationships, my rights. I was excommunicated not once, but three times. Each time, I wasn’t just removed—I was erased. But that erasure would become my liberation.

The Truth About Getting Sick: What If Everything We Thought We Knew Is Wrong?

We’ve been taught to fear the fever. To suppress the cough. To silence the symptom with something in a bottle. But what if the cold isn’t the sickness? What if the real sickness is believing we’re broken? This quiet revolution in health thinking is growing. A growing

The Crowned Commander: Trump's Executive Order and the Future of Presidential Power

Washington, D.C. — In a move that has sent shockwaves through Washington, President Donald Trump signed a controversial executive order on February 18, 2025, fundamentally reshaping the boundaries of presidential power. The directive states that only the President and the Attorney General can definitively interpret laws for the executive branch,

Revolutionary Blood Filtration Device Offers New Hope for Long COVID, Cancer, and Chronic Illness

In 2013, a team of top scientists gathered at a secure DARPA meeting. The challenge was ambitious, almost audacious: design a device that could filter pathogens—including viruses, bacteria, fungi, and even unknown future threats—directly from the bloodstream. It was a bold directive aimed at mitigating a global pandemic

A Rite of Passage in the Cult of Everything

When tasked with waking up from the matrix, the process isn’t as simple as flipping a switch. It’s about pulling oneself out of the amnesia that veils the truth and daring to remember what was once forgotten. Yet, for much of my life, I’ve sought distraction—not

Reassessing COVID-19 Vaccine Trials and Public Trust: A Detailed Examination of Efficacy and Adverse Event Reporting

The mRNA COVID-19 vaccines were introduced during the pandemic as a pathway to recovery and a public health safeguard. Touted as “safe and effective,” these vaccines were implemented under emergency use authorization (EUA) at an unprecedented scale. This article examines the claims made during their rollout, the protocols and outcomes

Natural Alternatives in Treating Infections: Exploring the Role of Herbal Remedies

As antibiotic resistance rises, many are turning to age-old herbal remedies to support healing and boost immunity. With the increasing prevalence of antibiotic resistance and growing interest in holistic health, herbal remedies are experiencing a revival. Traditional medicinal herbs, long praised for their antimicrobial and anti-inflammatory properties, are being studied

Serratia Marcescens: The Opportunistic Pathogen Lurking in Unexpected Places

A closer look at the bacteria causing infections in hospitals and homes—and how to manage its risks. In the shadow of superbugs like MRSA, a lesser-known but equally concerning pathogen quietly thrives: Serratia marcescens. This opportunistic bacteria, distinguished by its vivid red or pink pigmentation, is a growing concern

The Next Scamdemic - How Pandemics Influence Social and Cellular Patterns

Mycoplasma Pneumonia Outbreak  I recently spent 15 days battling Mycoplasma pneumonia—the sickest I’ve been in five years, despite living a clean and healthy lifestyle. As a single, working mom of two, here’s what I wish I had known beforehand to better prepare for and navigate this challenging

Unlearn. Reclaim. Rebuild.

de.programmed is a movement dedicated to uncoupling from the matrix—a system designed to perpetuate dependency, conformity, and disconnection from our true nature. We focus on shedding societal programming to uncover authentic individuality, aligned living, and holistic empowerment. Through the lens of critical thinking, intentional living, and fortified wellness,